North Star is a place of community for Latter-day Saints dealing with issues surrounding homosexual attraction and gender identity who desire to live in harmony with the teachings of Jesus Christ and the doctrines and values of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
The purpose of North Star is to be a spiritually uplifting resource for individuals and families dealing with these complex issues. It is also to empower individuals to help educate themselves, their family, friends, and Church leaders as they strive to become integrated more fully and lovingly into the Church community. We hope you will find something here that will be meaningful for your life—that it will be a place where you can connect with others, share your experiences, and learn from the experiences of others. The resources provided here are intended to be spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and socially supportive. You are not alone in your desire to find balance, knowledge, and support.
Homosexuality and gender dysphoria (i.e., transgender feelings) are sensitive and complex issues that Church members and leaders alike are learning to face with increasing openness and candor. For many, few issues of our time are proving to be as difficult to understand and to respond to in the way we at North Star believe God would have us respond: with balance of heartfelt compassion, unfeigned love, emotional sensitivity, open-mindedness, and uncompromising devotion to eternal principles and to our eternal identities and potential as His sons and daughters.
In a world where the stories of those striving to live gospel standards become lost in the turbulent sea of sexual and gender politics—scientific, social, and religious—and where secular perception is such that if you experience homosexual attraction, the only apparent way to live true to who you are is to pursue a homosexual relationship, and that if you experience gender dysphoria, the only apparent way to live true to who you are is to transition, we at North Star claim positive and balanced alternatives. We support and promote the choice to live in harmony with the doctrines and teachings of the Church concerning the eternal nature of gender, sexual expression, marriage, and family.
And yet, we are a diverse group; our stories are individual and unique. We represent many ethnic and cultural backgrounds. Aside from our efforts to live the gospel and apply the atonement of Jesus Christ in our lives, we come from different places and perspectives concerning homosexuality and gender dysphoria. For some, homosexual attraction or gender incongruence are largely a non-issue; others still struggle to find resolution. Some have never acted on their attractions or been involved in same-sex relationships; others have left the Church at one point and have since returned or are returning. Some are married; others are single. Some choose to self-identify as gay or lesbian or transgender; others don’t.
Despite our differences, we feel united in our faith and commitment to live true to the commandments of the Lord. Wherever you fall in this spectrum of experience or in your journey on the path of discipleship, you’ll find a safe place here. Welcome to North Star.
About Our Name
We at North Star affirm the example and teachings and love of Jesus Christ as the North Star of our lives and believe that our lives, if they are to be eternally meaningful, must be centered in Him. Church President Gordon B. Hinckley shared,
“When I was a boy, we lived on a farm in the summer… My brother and I slept out-of-doors. On clear nights…we would lie on our backs and look at the myriads of stars in the heavens… Each night we would trace the Big Dipper, the handle and the cup, to find the North Star.
“We came to know of the constancy of that star. As the earth turned, the others appeared to move through the night. But the North Star held its position in line with the axis of the earth… Through centuries of time, mariners had used it to guide them in their journeys. They had reckoned their bearings by its constancy, thereby avoiding traveling in circles or in the wrong direction, as they moved across the wide, unmarked seas.
“Because of those boyhood musings, the Polar Star came to mean something to me. I recognized it as a constant in the midst of change. It was something that could always be counted on, something that was dependable, an anchor in what otherwise appeared to be a moving and unstable firmament.
“Love is like the Polar Star. In a changing world, it is a constant. It is of the very essence of the gospel… Great beyond comprehension is the love of God. He is our loving Eternal Father. Out of His love for us, He has given an eternal plan which, when followed, leads to exaltation in His kingdom. Out of His love for us, He sent His Firstborn into the world, who, out of His own divine love, gave Himself as a sacrifice for each of us” (“Let Love Be the Lodestar of Your Life,” Ensign, May 1989, 65).