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What’s the Consequence of the Possibility that Same-sex Attraction is Predominantly a Youth Issue?

Photo by: Nevit Dilmen, Wikimedia Commons

Photo by: Nevit Dilmen, Wikimedia Commons

The third chapter of The Book of Ecclesiastes begins with these famous verses:

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die
a time to plant and a time to uproot
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

Sexual attraction is given to man by his Creator for a particular purpose. In ordinary circumstances, positive effect of that gift is creation the traditional family, a marital bond between a man and a woman. And the family is primarily about spiritual growth of both parents and children.

Same-sex attraction is less frequent manifestation of that gift, purpose of which still hasn’t been officially revealed to man. However, each individual who experience same-sex attraction can seek and receive personal revelation of the purpose of it.  READ MORE »

Categorized under: Same-sex attraction, Youth

Straight Allies are Indispensable Influence in Lives of Faithful Gays. Let’s Bring Them In!

Photo: Darwin Bell, Flickr

Photo: Darwin Bell, Flickr

The first person to whom I came out was my schoolmate. Actually, at the time when I came out to him, we were already students at the same local university, but we knew each other since high school. He and I were part of a larger group of friends, about a dozen of us, who were very, very close for many, many years.

I have always been sort of a weirdo in the group. I fell in love with one of the guys when I was 17, but I haven’t had a courage to come out to anyone for years. Frankly, I hadn’t had a reason to suspect that they would shun me if I told them. In spite of my rather eccentric disposition, my friends have always been beyond gracious towards me. They were patient, considerate and kind. They were protective against those who would wish to ridicule or bully me. And when I would really push the limits of their tolerance, they would simply ignore my mischief as if it has never happened. READ MORE »

Categorized under: Coming Out, Friendship, Straight Allies

Seven Changes in the Mormon Culture toward People With Same-sex Attraction that Must and Will Occur

Photo: Bianca de Block, Flickr

Photo: Bianca de Block, Flickr

There must be a change in the Mormon culture in attitudes toward people who experience same-sex attraction. That change must be deep and must include quite a lot of ground. Many Mormons don’t understand how profound that change is going to be.

There is no way around it. It will happen sooner or later. We are ordered by God to make that change. Many faithful Mormons are already making it. Here are the realms in which that change must occur.


Categorized under: Family and Friends, Same-sex attraction

If Sexuality Plays Heck of a Large Role in Lives of Faithful Gays, Isn’t That Damning? No, It’s Not

Photo by: Astrid Westvang, Flickr

Let’s talk about sex. I sometimes hear from gay individuals who strive to remain faithful to church standards something like this: “My sexual attraction isn’t the most important aspect of my character. Being a devoted disciple of Jesus Christ is.”

While I surely agree with the overall sentiment of that statement, I can tell it sometimes sounds rather unnecessarily self denying. Well, sex may not be the most important thing in the world, but it can easily be among the top three or four things. If you are in your late teens or early twenties, odds are that it often gets above anything else. And so, I argue, instead of stressing “relative unimportance” of the subject, let’s face the issue head-on and discuss it like adults. READ MORE »

Categorized under: Attraction, Same-sex attraction, Sex

The Voices of Hope Project • Celebrating a Year of Blessing Lives

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This Thursday, March 27th, 2014, will mark the one-year anniversary of our launch of the Voices of Hope website, In honor of that, we’d like to share the following video celebrating some milestones and highlighting some of the feedback:

Over the course of the last year, we’ve received a steady stream of comments and messages from folks who have been touched by the various stories in this project, and the ripple effect of that will continue outward—and this is just the beginning. As shared in this video, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has stated,

“Satan cannot directly take a life. That is one of many things he cannot do. But apparently his effort to stop the work will be reasonably well served if he can just bind the tongue of the faithful. Brethren [and sisters], if that is the case, I am looking tonight for men [and women] young and old who care enough about this battle between good and evil to sign on and speak up. We are at war…

“From every man [and woman], young and old… I ask for a stronger and more devoted voice, a voice not only against evil and him who is the personification of it, but a voice for good, a voice for the gospel, a voice for God. Brethren [and sisters] of all ages, unbind your tongues and watch your words work wonders in the lives of those ‘who are only kept from the truth because they know not where to find it’ [D&C 123:12].” (“We Are All Enlisted,” Ensign, November 2011)

We’re grateful for the many men and women who’ve shared their stories through video and essay, and for the many more who have signed up to participate and who we’ll be including over the next weeks, months and years, who have been willing to “unbind [their] tongues” and offer “a stronger and more devoted voice… a voice for good, a voice for the gospel, a voice for God.”

If you’ve benefitted from this project and believe in its vision and purpose, we need your help. Please consider making a generous recurring monthly donation here.

Thank you for your support for the Voices of Hope Project!


Ty Mansfield
President, North Star International
Co-director, Voices of Hope Project

Kevin Randall
Co-director/Executive Producer, Voices of Hope Project


Categorized under: Hope, Voices of Hope Project

Personal thoughts on the Journey Into Manhood Weekend

North Star officially does not endorse People Can Change’s Journey Into Manhood weekend, but it is certainly an activity that many of our community participate in. It’s one of the most frequent and commonly commented upon posts to our Men’s group. It seems like very few weeks someone will post some variation of the question, “Should I go to the Journey into Manhood weekend?” Several people have asked their permission to forward my answer to this question to others, and it has occurred to me that it might be useful to post my answer in a more public place.

My answer hinges on rephrasing the original question. Since I usually don’t know the person at all who asks this question, how can I give him my informed opinion of whether he should go? Since I don’t know him at all, I can’t give him an answer to that. A question that I can try to answer is this one: “How can I decide if the weekend is right for me?”

Before I answer it, let me add again the disclaimer that North Star does not, as I said above,  officially endorse the weekend, and therefore these opinions are my own personal opinions, and do not represent the official position of North Star. North Star’s official position, put pithily, is that it does not have a position, but that we want our community to be a place where people can talk about experiences that are helpful and supportive of their goals to live the gospel of Jesus Christ.  It is in that spirit that I offer my personal thoughts on the matter.


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