Okay if this post is even less formal than my usual informal posts, it’s because this week has been a bit busy for me, between school, applying for an internship, and GETTING ENGAGED, my blogging has suffered a bit. Never fear though, I do have something to talk about, and that’s guys.
Now I’m not talking about men, the essence of manhood, what makes a man, or mankind. I’m talking about guys, chilling out, jeans wearing, privates-scratching guys. When men put down some of their walls, step away from the formality of being men, and just enjoy each other’s company. When I’m just having fun with my guy friends, then they’re not entities of masculine energy, they’re my guys, the men I can be a guy around.
Let me give you some examples: I love to frequent comic book shop. One in particular, I can guarantee whenever I walk in will be full of guys just buying comics. The owners love me so they don’t mind when I do this, but whenever I walk in I always ask some question to spark a geeky guy conversation, like “Who’s hotter, Michelle Pfifer Catwoman or Anne Hathaway Catwoman, and who’d win in a fight?” or “Superman vs. Iron Man, and no Iron Man can’t have Kryptonite.” Then we debate, usually with a lot of joking and teasing intertwined in. I really don’t care who would win between fictional versions of cat burglars, or weather a rich alcoholic can beat up an alien in his underwear, I just want to play.
One thing I’ve learned is I need guy’s night. Don’t get me wrong my fiancé (Squee!) can chill with the best of them, and is even considered one of the boys in many of my circles, but about every couple weeks I need a night with my guys, a night that has nothing to do with therapy or really trying to heal anything, but just to have fun. With the ladies gone, we sit around, eat trash, play games, and just have a good time. Just a few days ago I got my guys together for this. We went out to a Chinese buffet and I ate something with eyes still attached to it for the first time. One friend took pictures of himself in the arms of a panda statue. We went back to my place and played games while we teased each other into hysterical laughing. It was a ball!
So here’s the question I’ve heard before: Is it healthy to have guy’s night? What could be beneficial from getting together with a bunch of men and acting half your age? Well for me, it’s more than beneficial, it’s a need. I said that I had a guy’s night, well the one before that was over a month ago, and I was feeling it. It started out with wanting to hang out with my friends and have fun, and when I couldn’t get that I started feeling lonely. Oh don’t get me wrong, I loved spending time with my girl, and with my friends with my girl there, and with my friends in some more formal situations, but I needed some play time. As the last guys night got further and further away, I noticed my anxiety levels increasing, my depression increasing, and my SSA get stronger.
For me, it’s the idea of having a group of men on the same level as me. I’m not trying to impress anybody, or wonder if I’ve said the right thing, I’m just being me and they’re being them. It’s probably one of the best feelings in the world, and I highly suggest you try it sometime.