The North Star Gender Identity Spouses Support Community email group is a moderated forum for wives of men and husbands of women whose spouses have feelings of dissonance between their physical gender and their internal sense of gender identity. Currently married and prospective spouses are welcome.
This group is designed to provide an open and supportive forum of discussion for committed Latter-day Saints or friends of the Church who desire to strengthen their marriages, succor and support one another in what can be very trying or discouraging circumstances, learn how to best support our spouses in their challenges, and/or heal, grow, and educate ourselves, our children, our families, and our communities.
Since this group is composed of a large variety of individuals with very different views of how to live with gender variance or gender identity incongruence, a large variety of different opinions and viewpoints are represented. In order to create a community where everyone is safe it is necessary to foster dialogue that encourages universal support.
All emails will be carefully moderated.
North Star has no official position detailing how individuals should live with gender variance or gender identity incongruence. In harmony with Elder Jeffrey R. Holland’s counsel that if you are “confused with gender identity… Whatever other steps you may need to take to resolve these concerns, come first to the gospel of Jesus Christ” (“Broken Things to Mend,” Ensign, May 2006), we would encourage individuals to prayerfully and patiently seek for individual answers. We each have been given agency and every individual is free to make their own choices. Each choice carries its own set of difficulties and consequences. The purpose of this community is to help individuals come closer to Christ no matter where they are at in their own personal journey. Remember, official Church doctrine and policy regarding how to live with gender variance or gender identity incongruence is largely undefined, and group members should be extremely careful to not make generalized declarations regarding Church doctrines or policies that have not been expressly taught by Church leaders.