Single Adults :: Community & Resources

Because one of the most beautiful parts of the gospel is the revealed doctrine of eternal families, being unmarried can feel very discouraging. This predicament can be unpleasant regardless of who one may be attracted to, but it may seem that much more overwhelming when it seems impossible to find a person of the opposite gender to whom you feel, as Elder Oaks put it, "a great attraction." Whether marriage will happen during your mortal life or not, remember that God has promised every blessing to those who follow Him—and happiness in this life is one of those blessings. It is certainly possible to achieve peace and happiness as a single member of the church, regardless of your attractions.

The church has a great interest in its single members. President Faust said,

"We are deeply moved and sobered as we hear a common thread running through the expressions of many of our single members. For some, loneliness and discouragement are their most constant companions. One great soul who has a good bishop, a good home teacher, a good position, and comfortable circumstances said, 'I don't need more to do; I just need someone to do it with.' This becomes a matter of great concern when we consider that at least one-third of adult Church members are single."

Sorting out how to be happy as a single member of the church may end up contingent on sorting out how to understand and deal with same-gender attraction. As you seek additional helpful information and resources, be careful to choose those you can trust, since different sources may disagree on crucial points that could influence the entire course of your life. There are resources from the Church about spiritual issues, from the government and medical societies about health issues, and from other special interest groups about various social and political issues.

As individuals who believe in and are trying to live according to the principles and standards of the Church, we've tried to assemble a variety of resources that will help you to move forward in the gospel in a way that will be spiritually, emotionally, and socially enriching. Since you're here, we assume you are trying to live the gospel too, and we're glad. Welcome!

Resources on this page are organized as follows:

North Star Resources

Church Resources

Other Resources

North Star Resources

Community Voices

Live the Questions
By Phillip Brown

"It Is Not Good That the Man Should Be Alone": The Virtues of Community and Friendship
By Ty Mansfield

"That Ye Love One Another"
By Samantha Stevens

Questions and Answers

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Northern Lights Blog Discussions

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Church Resources

God Loveth His Children | PDF
Newly released booklet (July 20, 2007) providing counsel specific to Latter-day Saints who experience same-gender attraction

LDS.org Email Subscriptions: Young Single Adult Gems

LDS.org Articles

A Conversation with Single Adults
President Gordon B. Hinckley
Ensign, March 1997

To Single Adults
President Gordon B. Hinckley
First Counselor in the First Presidency
Ensign, June 1989

The Church Is for All People
President Howard W. Hunter
President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
Ensign, June 1989

Belonging to a Ward Family
Elder Robert D. Hales of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
Ensign, March 1996

To My Single Friends
Elder John K. Carmack of the First Quorum of the Seventy
Ensign, March 1989

Singular Living
Ensign, June 2003

Singles and Marrieds—Together in the Faith
Kathleen Lubeck
Ensign, April 1987

Single in a Family Church
Don L. Searle
Ensign, September 1987

Getting the Job Done, Single-Handedly
Robert C. Hyde
Ensign, July 1984

Seeing beyond the Category: Reflections on a Single Life
Jan Underwood
Ensign, March 1984

Thoughts on Marriage Compatibility
Ensign, September 1981

Let us know of articles by Church leaders or in Church publications that have been helpful to you as a single member of the Church striving to remain faithful, by emailing us.

LDS.org Gospel Library Selected Topics

Dating and Courtship | Single Members of the Church

LDS.org Provident Living articles

Single-Adult Issues

Other Resources

Website Resources