Jeff



Since I have begun to discuss being gay and Mormon publicly about two years ago, the question that I hear most often is, “Why do you stay with a church that does not allow you to be true to who you are?” When facing this question, and its many variations, I pause to consider who I am, both as a physical creation and a spiritual being. To understand how to reconcile the distinct pulls from each of these, I immerse myself in developing an understanding of God’s plan of happiness. This provides me a paradigm through which I can make sense of these seemingly competing instincts.

I have a testimony that I am not a creature of this earth only, but that I existed prior to birth, was known by my Heavenly Father, volunteered to come to earth to be tried, tested, and developed, and that I will not cease to exist when I die. I love the word of God found in holy scripture, how the Book of Mormon neatly ties into the Savior’s teachings in the Bible. I have read and re-read each of the standard works and felt the joy and peace that comes from God’s word. I understand that I’m not just a physical creation, not just an intellectual person, but an eternal son of God and a spiritual being. Each of these things informs me as each is a deliberate, purposeful part of this life. And while some find these sources contradictory, I find harmony and balance. I see my physical self through the eyes of my spiritual self. Thus, to the question of being true to myself, I must answer that with a fully integrated sense of self, not from a single dimension.

I continue to move along the path from discomfort and ambiguity of my youth to resolution and comfort in my understanding of God’s plan. I had long held the belief that I was outside of the reach of the atonement of Jesus Christ. My narrow view of this doctrine led me to believe that it was only there to offer a forgiveness of sin. While I had sincerely repented for the sins I had committed, I remained attracted to men. My pleadings with the Lord to remove this burden by way of the atonement did not lead to a removal as I envisioned it. Thus, the atonement didn’t work for me. So I thought. I have since learned that each condition of this mortal existence is here by design. Paul wrote to the Hebrews that “God provided some better things for them through their sufferings, for without their sufferings they could not be made perfect.” (Heb 11:40, JST) To Joseph Smith He instructed, “…all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.” (D&C 122:7)

Reconciling being gay and Mormon was a problem that I could not solve on my own. While my fallback strategy for problem-solving has always been logic-based, I couldn’t logic this one out. This has required me to go to the Lord and seek out His understanding and His will. I needed to move away from my questions, “why am I this way” and “will you please remove this from me?” He taught me to ask, “What would you have me do?” The atonement of Jesus Christ solves problems that seem otherwise unsolvable.

I feel comfort despite not having all of the answers. Again from Paul, “We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.” (2 Corinthians 4:8-10). I am here on this earth to gain experience, to be tried and tested to see if I’m willing to obey all of God’s commandments. If this is my trial, it’s also my blessing. Through this, the Lord has blessed me with an enormous capacity for love and patience in others and in me. Perhaps the greatest miracle in my life has been brought about because of the atonement of Christ: I experience comfort within myself, happiness and deep satisfaction in my marriage, joy in raising my children beside their mother, and peace that comes with the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. This is being true to my whole self and why I stay true to Him.

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About Jeff

Jeff Case received a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Brigham Young University in 2008 and graduated from the Trauma, Risk, and Resiliency Post-doc Fellowship at the Warrior Resiliency Program located in San Antonio, TX, in 2013. He served for 8 years as a psychologist in the US Army and currently works as a therapist for the Veteran’s Health Administration on the staff at the Salt Lake City Vet Center. He also works as an adjunct faculty member at BYU. Jeff has been married to his wife, Sarah, for 18 years and together they have 3 children. He has been a part of the North Star organization since attending the first conference in 2014. His story about his journey down the road of reconciling his homosexuality and LDS faith can be found on the Voices of Hope website.

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Discussion

  1. Ricardo Rosas Says: Nov 6, 2016 at 11:13 PM

    Jeff, you are amazing brother! I love you tons! What a great example and true friend you are to me!! Courage should be your nickname!!

  2. Jeff, I love this so much. Thank you for sharing.

  3. Stacy Godnick Says: Jan 13, 2017 at 3:40 PM

    Huge respect!

  4. Sandra Castrini Says: Jan 15, 2017 at 8:06 AM

    You indeed do belong in Christ’s church because He loves ALL of us. We all, like Paul, have a “…thorn in our side.”
    No one is born free of challenges.
    Jeff, you are a beautiful brother in the gospel.

  5. Skip Driver Says: Jan 16, 2017 at 7:01 PM

    Jeff, great I remember knowing at age 19 that I was bi sexual yet Christian bi, yet Mormon and it’s ok there is nothing wrong with me!

  6. Thank you again for your personal revelation and then willingness to share with everyone. I knew you were special at your birth. But, I keep learning how very special as I witness your life. You are a true Nautilus shell owner, growing more beautiful every day. God has blessed us with you.

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