Church Leaders Facebook Group
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North Star sponsors a private Church Leader Facebook group intended to provide a confidential, safe, and moderated forum in which church leaders can offer and receive support in their efforts to help others to faithfully and healthfully live the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Commitments & Terms

You will be asked to agree to several commitments for the group(s) you have requested to join. Additional information may be presented to you as well. This is critical for you to understand as a member of this community. It is important to maintain a safe, loving, helpful atmosphere, hence the requested commitments.


Church Leader's Facebook Group

By joining the North Star Church Leader Facebook Group, you are certifying that:

  • you are at least 18 years old
  • you are currently serving as a church leader in one of the following councils:

    Stake/District Council
    Stake/District Presidency
    High Council
    Stake Auxiliary Presidency
    Ward/Branch Council
    Bishopric/Branch Presidency
    Ward Auxiliary Presidency
    Ward Mission Leader

  • your intention as a church leader is to receive and/or give support to those you serve for living the principles of Jesus Christ, whether they personally experience same-sex attraction or gender dysphoria, or whether they are a spouse, parent, family member or other friend.
  • Anyone who joins under false pretenses will be removed.


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I commit to affirm the doctrines and teachings of the Church.

North Star wholly supports the doctrines and teachings of the Church related to the appropriate bounds of romantic and sexual expression...

Specifically that “marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children,” and that “God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife”

We also affirm the teaching of modern prophets that “Each [person] is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and…[that] gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose” (“The Family: A Proclamation to the World”).

Posting content or arguments that undermine Church doctrines and teachings—particularly those concerning the sacred and eternal nature of sexuality, gender, marriage, and the family—or dissuade members from keeping covenants is strictly prohibited.


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I commit to maintain confidences.

You will keep all content, names, and personal information strictly confidential...

And obtain permission before forwarding, discussing, or summarizing messages here with anyone who is not a member of this specific discussion group.

For church leaders, when discussing your situation or experiences, please be mindful of the stated desire for privacy and anonymity of those loved ones for whom you wish to be a support. Many men and women who experience same-sex attraction or gender dysphoria also experience high levels of anxiety about their feelings being known to others. As such, we encourage sensitivity to those feelings and to maintain the level of confidentiality and anonymity for your members that they wish to maintain for themselves.

Be mindful of confidences when posting the same message across multiple groups (cross-posting).


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I commit to adhere to the norms of online etiquette.

Subject Headings: As a courtesy for those viewing email in a public forum, please refrain from using sexually- or homosexually-related words in the subject headings.

ALL CAPS is generally viewed as yelling. Use sparingly.

Respect other people’s time. When you post to a discussion group, avoid posting frivolous content. While posts that foster community can be appropriate, please avoid light-minded posts that distract from others’ need/requests for support.

This church leader group is NOT just for support of men who experience SSA. While it appears that wards and branches tend to have many more men who experience SSA in them, there are women, those who experience gender dysphoria, male and female spouses, and fathers and mothers and other friends also present.

Review your message before you hit send. Although this is a confidential environment, once something has been posted, there is no way to retract it, so think carefully about the content of your message. Also, grammar and spelling errors make it difficult for your audience to read, so please re-read your messages before posting them.


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I commit to be sensitive to others’ thoughts and opinions and to be open to diverse conversations.

For this group to be helpful to church leaders in supporting SSA members, especially those who are new to this community, we need to be kind to one another..

We expect that all who post messages will do so with an attitude of love and friendship and a common desire to support and bless members. Heartfelt discussion is encouraged. Disagreement, debate, and bantering are welcome, so long as they remain respectful and friendly. Avoid contention, insults, and unkind criticism. Outside of a few clear, gospel-centered values, many viewpoints and opinions are represented here; so, you cannot expect or insist that everyone will automatically share yours.

If you disagree with a post, you have two options: ignore it or reply with your own experiences without diminishing others feelings or experiences. Ask yourself, “What is it like to be on the other side of me?” Remember that there is a real person on the other end of whatever you put out there.

Approach differences with an open mind, kindness, and humility and allow each individual the privilege of a safe environment to seek support in helping others to live the principles of the gospel.


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I commit to support North Star’s mission.

I commit to support North Star’s mission.

You may only post or advertise groups, activities, internet sites, or publications whose ideals or content are in harmony with the core values and teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ—whether from secular or religious sources.

Events or resources referenced must be explicitly and exclusively supportive of the values and behavioral standards of the Church.

All events or resources must be approved by a moderator before posting. Please give the moderators plenty of time for review.

Political Advocacy

While North Star supports the doctrines and teachings of the Church relative to marriage, family, and the appropriate bounds of sexuality, we are not a political advocacy organization and posts of this nature are out of line with the mission of North Star and may not be posted.
Moderators may remove any post at any time if found to conflict with North Star’s mission and purpose. When in doubt ask a moderator first.

Community Contact Information

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You are now ready to enroll as a member of the North Star Facebook Groups.

Confidentiality of Personal Information

All information you provide below is for moderator reference only and will be kept strictly confidential.

These are Private Facebook groups

This means that unless you are a member of this group, you cannot see any posts, who is or is not a member of this group, or see that the group itself even exists. Joining this group, or posts that are made in the group do not appear on your wall nor on the news feed of anyone who is not already a member. We recognize how important your privacy and confidentiality are as you address these issues with members and as you seek and share ideas with other leaders in the Church..


Given the personal nature of Facebook and the amount of vulnerability involved, to join any of our Facebook groups it is required that you use your real name and identity. Profiles set up under pseudonyms are NOT allowed in our Facebook groups.

If anonymity is a concern for you, pseudonyms are allowed in our Email Groups.

You have requested membership for the following group(s):

You are now ready to enroll as a member of the North Star Church Leader Facebook Group.

For example: some leaders include specific issues that they are dealing with and are looking for ideas, others are looking for ways to create a safe environment for those experiencing SSA or gender dysphoria, still others may want to know how to support family members of those experiencing SSA or gender dysphoria.
Upon submitting your application, you will be signed up to receive a short series of messages that will help you make the best of your online community experience.

Please note! After the request is submitted, please allow 3-5 days for it to be processed!